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We all know the feelings of guilt and shame when we let ourselves down. Sometimes these feelings can be overwhelming and can feel like we are carrying a boulder with us everywhere we go. While many may be holding on to old events in our life that gave us a feeling of guilt or shame, it doesn’t mean we have to keep carrying this around moving forward.
One of the quickest ways to eliminate guilt and shame from our minds is to begin by keeping our promises. Especially the promises we have made to ourselves. Think about it. We all make promises to ourselves, usually promises that give us hope for a better life. Things like our famous New Year’s resolutions, the promise to do better this year than last, the promise to take better care of ourselves and to do better with others.
Whenever we break these promises to ourselves, we tend to spiral down into guilt and shame. That hopeful, flying high feeling the promise gave us is quickly replaced with crippling doubts about who we are and what we are capable of doing. Don’t let those crippling feelings take away the hope that had you feeling so high on the possibilities of life. Those possibilities are still there, it’s only your thoughts that would have you believe otherwise. You can still get back to that hopeful feeling and keep that promise to yourself.
Whenever you get that feeling you are carrying around a guilt or shame boulder, stop and ask if it’s keeping you from your promises. If it is, then you have an awesome opportunity to bring that promise and hope back to life. It means you still want it. We all take steps back on our way to what we want, but this is no reason to stop.
Children make mistakes all the time on their way to learning anything. We don’t tell our kids to stop when they come up against an obstacle or allow them to wallow in misery about an innocent mistake. We help them understand what happened and encourage them to keep going because it’s worth it. You can do this for yourself too.
Once you have noticed that your feelings of guilt or shame are keeping you from what you want, take a moment to identify what prompted the feelings in the first place. This will help you find where you are making yourself feel like you did something wrong. Now that you know what it is, ask yourself what you can do to either make it right or what you can do to move forward. Maybe you just need to slow down, give yourself permission to learn along the way, adjust the timeline or even make adjustments to the original promise. It is in our mistakes where we learn what it is we really want and can then make the necessary course corrections to get back to it.
You can do anything you put your mind to when you allow your mind to work for you, instead of you working for whatever your mind says.
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