You would like to change your life, but you have no clue where to even start. All you know for sure is that this is not the life you had in mind for yourself and something has to change.
You are not clueless about what you want or even who you are and who you want to be in this world. You already know things about yourself. You know the roles you play in life: a child, an employee, parent, and spouse. You know what excites you and what weighs you down. Where most of us struggle is trying to identify our passions and purpose. The clues are there, you know somewhere deep inside what is calling out to you. Over time, you just let your truth slip into the back seat as the worldly “shoulds” took up the space in the front seat. You know the “shoulds” that play in your head: you should do this not that, you should want that over there not this, you should feel this way… You let the “should” take the wheel. No wonder we look around one day and wonder where we are and how we got here.
If this is where you find yourself, it’s time to stop and ask yourself some questions. Ask questions that will reconnect you to your truth so you can get yourself back into the front seat of your life.
1.What do I like?
This sounds so basic and simple, but when was the last time you took inventory of what really excites you? Keep a piece of paper close by and write down everything you like and everything you don’t like. Yes, everything: people, situations, food, weather, anything and everything. After 1 week look over your list and ask yourself how you can reduce the dislikes and bring more of your likes into your life.
- What do I value?
Your values guide how you think and ultimately how you behave. Values define what is most important to you and provide you with a framework on how to make decisions in life. Uncovering your values will show you who you are at your core before the world told you who you should be. Once you identify your core 3-5 values you can start living into them on purpose by choosing to do things that align with your values.
Sometimes all we need to do is to stop and ask the right questions. You already have the answers somewhere inside of you. Now, it’s just a matter of tapping in to hear your truth.