Whether you want to believe it or not, every moment you are choosing how you show up in this world. Every moment you get to decide who you want to be, how you want to respond and what you want to experience. Many of us walk through this life in pain when we do not have to, simply because we made a decision to not show up as who we truly are moment to moment. Perhaps we were afraid or didn’t feel we had the strength to be completely authentic to ourselves and to others in the moment. But we still made a choice to sacrifice who are and now we get to experience the pain as a consequence.
Notice the difference when you show up as yourself. You are completely engaged. Even if something scary comes along you know what to do when you are fully yourself. When you make the decision to hide parts and pieces of yourself it feels horrible, you start to feel trapped and that inner dialogue begins to criticize who you are being. When you unnecessarily adapt and change for others, deny your true feelings and desires it’s painful. And for good reason. When I find myself being less than myself it’s feels like I am running my hand against a piece of wood the wrong way. It’s not meant to go that way and yes, it’s going to cause some pain.
Being yourself is what this life is all about. Being you is what invites in all the good stuff. Just being yourself will allow you to be present, to know what to do in any moment and to see people for who they truly are. You become malleable to the moment and what it needs from you. Which means you can really be there for another the way they need and they can also be there for you. When you walk through this life as you, the real you, you will see yourself as a person who can be trusted. When you are the real you, there is no desire to harm another there is only a desire to be in the moment. When we no longer feel the pain of hiding and denying ourselves there is no longer a need to prove anything, to make someone look or feel bad, it all goes away.
Don’t deny the world of who you really are. We need you to show up. You are here for a reason and it’s not to hide or to try to be someone you think you need to be. No! You are you for a bigger reason than you can wrap your head around. You are a huge piece to this puzzle called life. You are needed just as you are. Being you is what you are called to be and do. You offer this world a set of unique gifts in the form of your perspectives and insights that only you can bring to the table.
You’re here for many specific reasons. You don’t need to know what they are because they aren’t about you. Where you are in the world and the people you encounter are there to experience something from you. It may be a 10 second smile or an hour-long conversation or some really cool product you create. You will never know how deeply and broadly your impact will go. What I do know is, the only way to be sure we are doing what we are here to do is to show up as your authentic self. Being you is the key. Anything less is painful.